What are patterns and what do they have to do with me? In short, it has everything to do with you, me and everyone. Let me take a moment to explain.

Do you know someone who is always late? And are they always making up excuses? “I couldn’t find the file”, “My wife misplaced my car keys”, “I need more time”, “What you’re asking is impossible”, “I had some chores to do late last night”, “I didn’t realise we were planning to meet so soon” and on and on.

What about a friend who complains they are always broke? Yet, they make a decent living – they may even earn the same wage as you. Do you know anyone who is living from paycheck to paycheck? Spending everything as soon as they get paid?

Believe it or not, the reason why this friend is always late or broke is not because of some mystical force in the universe but because of the patterns they have established. How they feel, what they think and how they react are all elements of patterns they have established. These patterns operate at the sub-conscious level and are constantly working to fulfil our friend’s expectations.

If you feel you’re going to be late, you will be. If you think you’re always broke, you tend to be.

The trick to achieving your life goals and being happy is to minimise the negative patterns and reinforce the positive patterns. Focus on establishing the habits which lead to desired results. Eliminate the temptations to do bad and surround yourself with aids that encourage the good.

If you have been reading my previous posts, in particular the first one, you will know my goal is to transition from being just a Software Engineer to an Entrepreneur. I know this isn’t going to be easy. I don’t even have a business idea yet. I certainly do not know what it takes to establish a company.

So what’s patterns got to do with anything? Everything.

It’s not just about changing my environment or circumstances, it’s about changing me. In order to achieve my goal, I first have to change my patterns. Patterns that allow me to be a good Software Engineer may not be the same patterns I need to be a successful Entrepreneur.

For example, in order to be more business savvy, I may need to spend more time reading business related texts. One way to encourage this is to setup Bloglines with more business feeds at the top of the list so I end up reading these before anything else. Also, if I am to launch a new web service, I need to consistently dedicate time outside of work to do this. This could mean, forming a habit to wake up at 5:30am and blocking out 90 mins every day.

There are lots more examples and I’ll write more about these new patterns in future posts. In the meantime, if you have a life goal you wish to accomplish or have something in your life you are unhappy about, think about the patterns you have. Which patterns are negative? Can you minimise them? If possible, establish as many positive patterns as you can that would help you achieve your goals.

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  1. Dave Cheong | Engineer to Entrepreneur » Enlist your family and friends in your cause says:

    [...] In my previous post, I wrote about developing positive patterns. If you have a goal you wish to accomplish or something you wish to change, you need to establish good patterns and surround yourself with aids that would encourage, support and motivate you. The more worthwhile the goal, the more difficult the journey and the bigger the role good patterns will play in determining whether you succeed or not. [...]

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  4. Dcrad says:

    Great post, the effects one can have on ones own life after just changing the way they view and think about things can be massive. Most people however dont stop to think that perhaps things CAN be better if they only start to think about things in a better and more positive way.

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    [...] Wake up early even in the weekend. This one is a subtle one. Your reason to waking up early may not always apply to every day. For example, if my reason for waking up early is to make lunch for work, it won’t apply for weekends. However, I’ve found that it is essential to wake up at the same time consistently irrespective of whether you need to or not. I briefly discussed this in my previous post about developing positive patterns. We are all ultimately creatures of habit. Our bodies can be taught and trained to be early risers. If we establish a consistent pattern for waking up early and acknowledging to our body that this is an ongoing requirement, it will change its rhythm to accommodate this. If your original reason does not apply every day, you may need to find an additional reason for the other days. There is nothing to prevent you having multiple reasons for getting up early. [...]

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    [...] Having positive patterns in my routine. I’ve found having good habits and positive patterns to be instrumental. At the moment, I can consistently get more done. As these patterns continue to establish into a routine, I’m finding that I can better judge the periods of the day in which I really need to focus and work. [...]

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    [...] To avoid this slippery spiralling decay and disorder in our personal lives, I find that developing good habits and sticking to positive patterns are essential. Fix the problems and address the issues as they arise. Don’t leave that paper unfiled. Put it away immediately. Instead of dropping the clothes on the floor, put in a little bit of effort now and place them in the laundry basket. If there are dirty dishes, wash them immediately. [...]

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  13. jc says:

    What are some good links to business sites? Other than BusinssWeek and the Economist

  14. Josh Hodge says:

    Hi Dave,

    I really enjoyed your blogs. Congradulations on making the decision to fire your boss. I read that you are still looking for a worthwile business opportunity. I have a great opportunity I believe you would be passionate about that I would like to discuss with you. We can communicate through email. I look forward to hearing from you.

    Josh Hodge

  15. pburin22 says:

    “Great post, the effects one can have on ones own life after just changing the way they view and think about things can be massive.”
    I agree too…..

  16. John Hill says:

    You have really hit the nail on the head with this post. Change your pattern and you can ultimately chnage your life.

  17. trademark registration says:

    You’re really on to something here. And it applies not only to your personal life, but also to your professional life. I’ve already identified certain negative “patterns”, and it’s really changing the way I live.

  18. Take every little task as a challenge says:

    If you really want to succeed in life than you have to take every single task in life as a challenge like you are competing with some one else. like in typining competition you have to type more faster and accurate as compare to someone else.Try to do every little thingn in life faster and accurate.

  19. yunus says:

    I do believe that our ideas are our life

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